In entrepreneurship and public speaking there are many words and phrases that we typically use. We use them for varied reasons such as closing deals, networking, gaining trust, and earning funding from investors.
It is important for speakers to have complete control over their words because their words spin magic for them. They use their speaking skills to enthrall and amaze in such a way that they easily persuade people and convince them to listen to them. When you speak to an audience, there are a few words that can capture attention while there are a few others that can distract and disengage the audience. It is important to understand what can cause an instant disconnection so that your speaking session doesn’t go waste. To be an impactful speaker, the first thing you should do is to remove the word “sorry” from your vocabulary.
We have seen numerous presenters demean themselves by apologizing for the simplest things. Why do you need to be sorry? Instead of being sorry, you should be positive and confident. For example, if someone asks you to be louder, simply smile and reply with, “Sure.” That will show confidence. Instead, if you say, “Oh, I am sorry,” and then raise your voice, it will not just show lack of confidence but also desperation. You are desperate to put up a good presentation. You are desperate for people to listen to you. When your audience realizes this, it will stop listening to you altogether.
Public speaking is about being confident and positive. Whether someone asks you to show the previous slide again, explain the previous point again, or ask you to be loud, you have no reason to apologize. Positivity in speech and expression engages the audience while being apologetic at every turn will miserably turn things against you.
Another mistake that speakers make is that they highlights their own errors by apologizing. You should note that more often than not, the audience does not realize that you skipped a point or forgot to say something. That is why you don’t need to apologize and then make the point. This will only bring attention to a mistake that was not even noticed until then. You may simply embed the point you forgot and carry on.
Having said all this, you should note that when errors or failures are obvious and glaring, you should apologize. When you apologize at times, you make people question your expertise.
Public speakers should steer away from apologizing when it is not needed. Many have the habit of apologizing, which is a big question mark on their knowledge and expertise. If you want to make a positive impression, be positive. Do not undermine yourself by apologizing.